Ontological Coaching is an innovative life coaching strategy that is designed to transform the way you understand and interpret yourself and the world around you.
Ontology is defined as “ the study of being”. Your way of being includes your life observations, perceptions and habitual behaviors. Any of these aspects can hold you back from living and experiencing your ideal life.
Your way of being determines what you believe is possible and not possible. Your personality determines your reality!
Many times, when people do not like the results they are getting, they first change their actions. But focusing on actions without first changing their perspective (“observer”) toward the situation only produces more of the same results. To truly change the results, an emphasis on the way “the observer” (the client) perceives herself and the world around her must be made. This is done through bringing in the learning domains of body posture, emotions & moods and language.
It allows people to begin to see themselves in a way they have not been able to see themselves before. This opens up perspectives and possibilities for action that were not possible before.
The body may seem to be an unlikely area of attention in the context of performance and improvement. Like moods and emotions, the body has largely been ignored as a key area of learning that affects individual and organizational performance.
The body is always present in how people listen to each other and speak with each other. Speaking is not limited to the vocal chords – it occurs from the body. In fact, 93% of our language is non-verbal, (posture, breathing pattern, eye movement). An individual’s body consists of the subtle configurations of muscles and skeleton that have been learned throughout life. In many subtle and powerful ways, posture can keep people trapped in negative moods that negatively impact listening and speaking.
In ontological coaching we look at:
- How to use the body to get into more constructive and productive moods?
- How small shifts in body posture can generate a more positive outlook and produce more effective communication.
Why does mood matter in our personal and business lives? Our thinking determines our moods, creates our reality and drives our behaviors. Our emotions are pre-disposition to act.
We are always in some mood or emotions. Moods and emotions are an integral part of the effective use of language. They are crucial to clarity, morale and organizational performance. In ontological coaching we look at:
- How to distinguish between moods and emotions
- Recognize and utilize four basic moods of life as a deeper level of emotional intelligence, and how they impact morale and performance
- Understand how to consciously shift self and others from a negative to a more constructive mood
- How to use mood and emotions to have more effective and influential communication and build relationship.
“What you are speaks so loudly that I cannot hear what you say” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Language is used to produce outcomes and generate realities. People act from what comprises reality for them.
Effective leadership, management, coaching and team behavior depends heavily on how people use language. What is done and how well it is done, is shaped by how people do and do not use language.
Listening is an ever-present part of human interaction. Listening is a crucial factor in communication and relationships and essential for establishing trust and rapport.
Ontological coaching contains four precise linguistic tools (called basic speech acts) that human use in everyday conversations to create reality and get things done. People are often not aware of how they use – and misuse these linguistic tools. Awareness of how to intentionally use them produces more effective ways of conversing, relating and performing in human relationships.
Stories and narratives are often silent, invisible and in the background of everyday conversations. They reflect the deep culture of organizations and individuals and can be major barriers to change. They provide useful context of meaning shaping what people see as possible and not possible for individual, team and organizational improvement. A key part of examining language is to uncover destructive narratives and develop powerful and empowering ones.